Care Dare – a Self-Care Summit

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Your Self-Care Compass by Cathy Carpenter

For the last few months, I’ve been embracing the image of a compass. It came to me in a guided meditation when we were asked to drop into our center and check in with where we are and what we’re feeling or experiencing. I like the image of a compass, rather than a balance beam, because the compass doesn’t judge your direction as good or bad, it just gauges how far you are from True North.

Today, I’d like to invite you to do a little art project to design a Self-Care Compass.

Consider for a moment what “True North” is for you in relation to self-care. It could be a photo of you when you were happy and healthy; it could be your word for the year; it could be a specific daily practice you’d like to cultivate. Feel free to journal on this idea of identifying your “True North.”

Then draw, collage, paint, assemble, embroider, etc. a design for your personal Self-Care Compass. For the other cardinal directions (east, south, west), consider depicting habits or comfort behavior you fall into, taking you away from “True North.” Some things might take you farther from “North” than others, so you can place them in rank order with the habits or behaviors most opposite to your ideal north toward the south point.

As you’re ranking in this way, try not to judge the behaviors, just recognize whether it contributes to your ideal North or not, and maybe make a notation on the outer edge of something you could choose instead to bring you back to North.

When your piece is done, display it somewhere accessible so you can look at it whenever you’re feeling less than great. Notice if you’re engaging in one of the habits or behaviors that take you away from North and ask yourself if you can choose something else to bring you back toward North.

Obviously, sometimes bad things happen and you need to work through grief or sadness or anger; but this activity will help you notice when you’re not pointing in the direction you want to go so you can make a gentle correction of course.

Here is a digital collage I made for my compass with images I found on Pinterest.

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Cathy Carpenter is a creativity/life coach, tarot reader, fiction writer, blogger, visual artist, crafter, dreamer, and planner. She is on a path to find more deep satisfaction in her daily life creatively, emotionally, and spiritually. She wants to mix the magical and the mundane. As she’s exploring, she likes to share what she’s learning and would love to help you explore these themes as well. Go deeper. Explore your depths.

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Valentine Mine by Cathy Carpenter

Whenever I’m single on Valentine’s Day, I use it as a day of self-care! You can do this with or without a romantic partner, any day of the year – pick a day to be your own Valentine.

ccarpenter-vtine My perfect day …
This was a number of years ago, but I remember it vividly because I crafted it to be perfect. I still had to go to work and keep my normal schedule, but my “me” time in the evening was just what the doctor ordered. I bought some multi-colored roses for the dining table. I picked up my favorite Italian take-out and a bottle of my favorite red wine. I took a bath with sweet lemon oil while I listened to a Chris Botti CD. I soaked until my tummy was rumbling. Then I put on a bathrobe, reheated my dinner, and poured a generous glass of wine. I ate in my robe watching the last episode of “Pride and Prejudice” with Colin Firth. I capped my evening with a few gourmet chocolate truffles. All of my senses were satisfied and I went to bed happy as a clam.

Your perfect day …
First, let’s imagine your perfect day of pampering. What are you craving? What could you experience to make it a delicious, luxurious day? Let’s go through each of the senses and make it a rich, multi-faceted experience. Here are some examples, but choose whatever makes you light up.

See
* Would you like to watch a romantic movie?
* Would you like to read a racy novel?

Smell
* Would you like a dozen roses?
* Would you like an aromatherapy candle?

Taste
* Would you like a box of raspberry truffles?
* Would you like take-out from your favorite restaurant?

Feel
* Would you like a bubble bath?
* Would you like a massage?

Hear
* Would you like to listen to your favorite CD?
* Would you like to listen to nature sounds?

Spirit/6th Sense
* Would you like to do a guided meditation?
* Would you like to write in your journal?

Your perfect moment …
It’s fun to make a self-care event to make yourself feel really special, but you don’t need to make a big production of self-care every time. Check in at least once per week and notice which of your senses would like some extra attention. Pick one thing to treat that sense and do it in a moment. It can be something simple:

* Taste some fresh, clean water
* Watch a cloud go by
* Listen to a bird chirping
* Smell your favorite tea before you take a sip
* Feel your heartbeat in your chest
* Notice something to be grateful for

Big or little, a day or a moment, find ways to treat yourself. Be your own Valentine. Show up for yourself, take care of yourself, love yourself!

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Another aspect of self-care is to get better acquainted with yourself! You’ll know better how you want and need your self-care when you really know who you are.

Check out my new e-workbook, The Art of Self-Examination! ($18 – get $5-off in February with code 2014ASECD5)

In addition, consider Empress Yourself, my tarot tele-class using the archetype of the Empress for self-development, on Tuesday, March 11 (Also $18, use the same code 2014ASECD5 for $5-off)

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Cathy Carpenter is a creativity/life coach, tarot reader, fiction writer, blogger, visual artist, crafter, dreamer, and planner. She is on a path to find more deep satisfaction in her daily life creatively, emotionally, and spiritually. She wants to mix the magical and the mundane. As she’s exploring, she likes to share what she’s learning and would love to help you explore these themes as well. Go deeper. Explore your depths. http://exploringyourdepths.com/


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Self-care according to Cathy Carpenter

According to Cathy Carpenter of Exploring Your Depths, here is an answer for “What does ‘self-care’ mean to me?”

self-care For me, self-care is about empowering myself to meet my own needs. Some fairy godmother or valiant knight isn’t going to show up and give me everything my heart desires. I can give myself everything my heart desires. I can be my own fairy godmother.

* If I want to be pampered with a bubble bath and champagne, I can claim that for myself.
* If I need to cry and express my feelings, I can write in a journal and squeeze a teddy-bear.
* If I don’t feel the way I want to feel in my body, I can give myself fresh air, exercise, and rest.

Self-care is about recognizing when I have a need, considering what would help me, and giving it to myself.